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Understanding Our Energetic Roadmap 

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For many people, the new year begins in January, with fresh expectations and newly minted goals in hand. But for me, February is when I start to think about the year ahead. And it’s not so much about the goals or achievements that I am pondering, but rather the questions I will ask of the coming year.

Because in the astrological system of 9 Star Ki, February 4th begins the shift. And with it comes distinctively new energetic patterns and “homework,” for each year. I have found it to be a valuable and interesting way to look back at the year that has just ended and gain insight into the year that is emerging. It helps us to decide if it’s the best time to push forward or to rest and reflect. Sometimes with jaw dropping accuracy, and at other times, with a simple shrug and a “yeah, that happened.”

And in 2025, I was in one of those quiet reflective years. It is called a year of “transformation,” but to me it felt more like being stuck in the mud. Thick mud, the kind your boots get stuck in on an early spring day, when the snow starts to melt. Moving forward was an enormous effort and nothing seemed clear. Communication can be difficult in a year like this, and little details can be missed. And even though I knew this going in, it still happened.

In September, while attending a one time blogging class, I was discussing my work with the 9 Star Ki, when couple of interested classmates asked me for my website information. Later, as I was recounting the events of the evening to my husband, he looked at me with mild irritation and replied, “you gave them the wrong website name!” And sure enough, I had. Those pesky little “details!”

However, even though 9 Star Ki is a remarkable way to understand our energetic patterns and yearly cycles, it is not a fortune cookie or an immutable predictor of fate. We still have to do the work. Essentially, it is a tool that shows us our energetic “weather” for the year.

But precisely because it is so accurate, it can be tempting to rely on it a bit too much, and instead treat it as a way of life. The same can be true of Feng Shui, Western Astrology or any of the instruments we use to help us navigate our journey in life. When I first started studying this system, I did just that.

In late winter of 2011, my husband started a new career path that required our family to relocate from New Jersey to Albuquerque, New Mexico. Though I knew the move would be stressful, I was more amazed at the accuracy of the energetic pattern, than surprised. I had just entered a season of rapid growth and change, and I figured why not? Let’s just go for it, and so we did. 

Of course, as with any move, especially a major one, there were challenges. But when the dust settled, we started to make friends and form a new community. However, in the spring of 2013, when my husband had entered into the same cycle of change that I had been in two years prior, his company abruptly moved his entire group back east.

The challenge, besides the fact that we were facing yet another cross country move, was that I wasn’t in a year of change. In fact, I was in an “eye of the hurricane,” as Jean Haner, the author of Your Hidden Symmetry, calls it. And the advice for the year is to stay put!

I panicked. “What am I to do?” I pleaded with my 9 Star Ki teacher, “I can’t move, it’s the wrong year!” Though she did not seem too concerned, because it was the “eye of the hurricane” after all, and her advice was simple. “Just don’t take the lead, let your husband handle the big details,” she replied. “Give yourself some extra time and expect that there might be some complications.” 

Well, not only didn’t I take the lead, I completely gave it to my husband (which is not what she told me to do, by the way). I followed the script for the year a little too closely and ended up giving myself a lot of complication. Complications that lasted years, because not only was he in a year of change, but he was also in a year where he could be impulsive. And he impulsively bought a house… without me. As you might imagine, this did not go well for either of us!

The point is, I wasn’t supposed to give my power up because a 9 Star Ki yearly cycle advised not to move. Life happens. What I was supposed to do is expect that there might be some extra challenges. Instead, I took it too literally and got a house and a community that wasn’t the best fit. And as my wise Five Element acupuncturist always reminds me, “it is meant to be a tool, not a way of life.”

And that is exactly I how I approach the 9 Star Ki energetic cycles now. With wonder and curiosity. A way to look back, reflect, and gain some insight, and maybe even do a little yearly homework. But mostly as a valuable roadmap on my journey through time. 

Understanding the Water Element in Human Life

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The Water Element: Deep and Powerful 

In winter life seems quiet and hidden. Bare tree branches are etched across the sky and layers of snow blanket the frozen ground. But deep beneath the surface, concealed in the cold, dark earth, transformation is happening as the seeds slowly begin to grow and strengthen, silently waiting for the coming of spring.

And like the small trickle of melting snow winding its way down the mountain slope, softly moving around obstacles and joining together with more droplets to create rivers that slowly carve and shape the earth, water is determined.

Powerful, deep, mysterious and persistent – this is the essence of the Water Element. In human life, these are the intuitive, courageous and adventurous people. They carry a deep inner wisdom and can be quite philosophical and innovative. And although they appear easy going, Water Element people have strong independent natures, and don’t easily share their thoughts or emotions with the outside world. In fact, they can be quite secretive.

Water people need a great deal of freedom and flexibility in life. It can be torture for them to be stuck in a 9 to 5 job wearing a suit every day. In fact, they would actually prefer to be working horizontally. Whether lounging on the sofa, bed or recliner, it doesn’t matter as long as it’s not sitting at a desk! 

One familiar pattern of Water Element people is their ability to push through difficult situations. They have tremendous courage and tenacity, but they can be challenged  by the emotion of fear. Water Energy is about the unknown. It’s a deep, dark mysterious world beneath the surface, and fear is alway about the unknown. Water people carry this essence within them and under stress they can withdraw or become overly cautious and unable to move forward or make decisions. At the extreme, they may even become afraid to communicate their feelings.

A peek into the Water Element Personality: 

Once, when I was on a plane traveling to North Carolina, I was seated next to a woman in her early 60’s. She’d noticed that I was reading a book about the Nine Star Ki, and as the plane started to land, her curiosity got the best of her, so she asked me about the book. After I gave her a brief description of the Ki and the Five Elements, she began to tell me her story. 

Her career required her to travel a lot and and she loved it, but she wanted to retire. When I asked her why she didn’t, she told me about her husband who had been out of work for quite some time, and how he had secretly taken most of the money out of her retirement fund and spent it. Of course, once she found out, she filed for divorce, but now she would have to work longer than she had planned to. As I do with almost everyone I meet, I asked for her birthdate and gave her a quick description of her energetic patterns and the yearly cycle she was in. But when I explained her husband’s patterns and his yearly cycle, well, she was kind of stunned. She was Wood Element, and he was Water Element. And sometimes Water Element people have the tendency to be very secretive under stress and only tell you what they think you need to know. And this is just what happened. He was secretly and slowly taking the money over time, and like water gradually leaking out of a swimming pool, he literally “drained” her bank account. He was also in a 9 Fire year, which is a year of illumination and if you are hiding something that you don’t want to be seen, it can more easily come to light.

Although we had limited time to delve into her situation, she was astonished by the accuracy of the Nine Star Ki and how it illuminated some of the challenges she faced with her husband.

Simple Feng Shui Tips for a Harmonious Home

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Whenever someone asks me about Feng Shui, I am always met with some version of, “Isn’t that the thing that tells you where to put your couch?” Or “I don’t believe in that stuff, it’s to woo woo!” Or “I don’t want to show you my house, it is filled with clutter and I am sure I have bad Feng Shui!” And one of my favorites, “Feng Shui is too complicated and “I don’t want to put a bunch of silly trinkets all over my house!”

My answer is straightforward, “yes, it can be all that, and it doesn’t have to be any of that.” To which I am always met with a bunch of blank stares. But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be overly complicated. One can simply start with the basics, using the Five Senses.

So often, we make things more complicated than they need to be. Usually there is the urge to do too much or “fix” a perceived problem, while at the same time, not being clear about our intentions. I felt the same way when I first came across Feng Shui more than two decades ago. I started to install all sorts of “cures” to make my life more balanced. I wanted a better job, to have more money and find a good partner. But instead, all that happened was I got frustrated, disillusioned, and ended up throwing my new book in the garbage.

Of course, we still have to do the mundane work, but it’s best to start simple. Feng Shui is all about our relationship to our home and surroundings. What we see, hear, smell, touch and taste in our environment can have a greater impact on us than we might think. And simply adjusting one thing, such as the first thing we see when we enter our home or the smells that greet us as soon as we walk through the door, can make us relax with pleasure or zap the energy right out of us. 

My friend Michael was a very “woodsy” kind of guy. He loved the outdoors, but had to relocate from the suburbs into the city for a new job. Though he loved his job, the bustle of the streets and his cramped new apartment, not so much. He was not a fan of Feng Shui, but he did agree to make some very minor adjustments to bring in more harmony. A few artfully placed fishing poles hung on the wall and a new plug-in diffuser that filled the air with the sent of fresh pine, was all it took. Instantly, his home gave him a warm welcome as he stepped through the door.

Which of the five senses would you like to invite into your home?

Sight – Use the door as a portal to draw you eye forward toward a beautiful piece of art or sculpture or the soft light of a lamp on a side table in the entry.

Smell – Have a diffuser with your favorite scent to fragrantly greet you as you step through the threshold.

Touch – Rest tired feet on a soft plush rug as you step through the door, or a cushioned bench to sit down on.

Hearing – The calming sound of a gentle wind chime or the relaxing trickle of a water fountain near the door. 

Taste – Display a basket of fresh fruit on a table or fresh herbs on a kitchen windowsill to inspire a healthy snack after a long day of activities.

It can be as simple as that. Using a little Feng Shui and our five senses, we can make a ho-hum transition from the outside world into a transformation of a home that immediately gives us a welcoming hug.